Fresh Start Dad! How can I be the best dad possible?

For as long as I can remember, I had wanted to become a dad. I knew then that I had to take a much different path from what I saw many young men taking. There was a lot of nonchalent and selfish people talking about the act of being a father, but never discussion the actual steps needed to make that wish a reality. Yes, anyone can be a father, but are they prepared to be the daddy that the child needs.

I knew that I wanted to be a dad early one and I imagined that I would make the best dad, being that I was raised by one of the best. Being the best dad possible isn't the hardest job, but it does come with practice. Just like any new parent or non-custodial parent, it takes practice and more practice. Being patient, understanding, and proactive can be great attributes needed to be successful. In addition, there are many steps to that you can take to ensure that you have the most success at becoming the best parent, doing the best that you can do.

I have followed these 5 Steps and they have enabled me to build and maintain a healthy relationship with my child:

Be Proactive

Look for ways of engaging your kids with fun, spontaneity, and love. Preparing to be the best dad takes a lot of planning, persistence, and innovation. Learning your kids likes and dislikes, talking to them about what's going on in their lives and ensuring that you can be a part of their most precious times are all prerequisites to sustaining positive fatherhood. Lastly, surprise your kids, demonstrate your proactive spirit by initiating contact, setting up a weekly outing and lastly letting them know how much they mean to you. You will gain so much more in return.

Be Visible

It is very important for a father to be visible in a childs life. Don't live that passive life, letting the mother be primarily active and engaged in the children's life. Due to the fact that many fathers are usually less active in the rearing of the children, it's time that fathers change the narrative. Show your children your committment, allow them to show you off, and give them that additonal audience to display their greatest talents and achievements. This gives them more chances to create even more opportunities to make you proud. Be the beacon of light that prompts them to shine, be that mirror that reflects your legacy, and be that voice the helps them to speak out and show you how proud of you they are.

Be Consistent

Consistency is the act of being stable and constant. Children should always feel that they can depend on their parents to help them to be the best version of themselves. Your child(ren) dependency on consistency helps them to develop routines, which dictates logic and better enables them to create clear paths to their goals. It is important that a child knows what to expect from their parent, providing on going knowledge, safety, and reliability of parenting.

Show them how to demonstrate accuracy, fairness, and logical processing of life's beautiful paths, by showing them how to do things in order and decency.

Do What You Are Supposed to Do

We all have a job to do and we need to do whatever it takes to complete the duties of that position. When you take a job, there are guidelines, responsibilities and goals that you must undertake in order to be successful. Look at your life with your children in the same way. What I am I supposed to do? Being a good dad comes with guidelines for taking care of our families whether it be financially, spiritually, or covering them with security. Fathers also have a responsibility to influence the childrens life through encouragement, guidance, and grooming to make an great impact on the world. Lastly the ultimate goals are to make sure that your little ones grow up to be productive citizens, capable problem solvers and peace makers.

Keep Your Word

I remember the age-old dotage, "A man's word is his bond." Growing up in a household with a loving father and provider, I understood the importance of being able to depend on my father. This helped me to develop the same mentality, decency, and capacity to do the right thing. I learned first hand to honor my words, promises, and committment in order to gain the most out of live. When someone depends on you and you come through, that gives a sense then a sence of comfort aand dependibility unmatched. It provides a sense of empowerment to take positive risk and step out more on faith. Use this power to empower your children to honor you and see you as that comfort and dependability. Knowing that you will keep your word at all cost, enables your child to be more trusting, dependable, and willing to help others. Show them the way, and they will honor you by following your lead.

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